Happiness is a state of mind
Thursday, April 28, 2005
I have learned from experience that happiness is an acquired skill. There is always something to complain about,
even in the best of times. And there is always something to celebrate, even in the worst of times. Happiness
is not an objective reality so much as a subjective decision. Chronic complainers miss the boat.
Many people are addicted to suffering and have a mental habit of pointing out the worst in people or
situations. Not only are they robbing themselves of joy, but their failure to appreciate all the
goodness that life has to offer actually diminishes that good. Thinking that something
is bad has the power to make it so in our experience.
Many of us could have lived large parts of our lives in wonderful circumstances, but utterly failed to appreciate
how fortunate we have been compared to millions who live in wretched conditions. Reasons to be happy are
everywhere, but somehow most of us don't connect with them. It's like eating without tasting the food. Often,
it takes a series of misfortunes for people to celebrate the good while it's happening, feel grateful for what
are sometimes such simple pleasures. Only then when these pleasures come around, we
life our cup of life to them.
The enlightened ones among us know that happiness is not determined by circumstances. Happiness is not what happens
when everything goes the way we think it should; happiness is what happens when you develop a keen sense of
gratitude for even the smallest pleasures and comfort that many in the world yearn for.
Gratitude is essential to happiness. Developing a grateful attitude - knowing that every time we arrive somewhere safely,
we have something to be happy about; every time our children rush up to us and smile, we have something to be happy
about; everytime we get out of bed and are able to meet the challenges of the day without being hampered by chronic
illnesses, we have something to be happy about - that is the essence of a happy existence.
Something interesting.
Monday, April 25, 2005
11.05pm, guy and gal were chatting happily, when guy uncontrollably
yawns
bad example
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gal (sounding out): you feeling sleeping??
guy: yeah, tired from work...
gal (sounds concern): ok, shan't disturb u, go and sleep lah
guy: ok, you have an early nite too..
guy hangs up the phone.
5 min later, phone rings
awaken by the phone rings, guy: hello?
gal: .............
guy: who's this?
gal (feeling unjust): you felt very bothered by me is it?
guy (confused): huh? what?
gal: .............
guy: why? what happened?
gal: you find me very bothersome is it?
guy: bothersome? why you said this??
gal: ..............
guy: what's the matter? how i would know if you dun say it out?
gal: we are chatting halfway, and you yawn, and went off to sleep...
guy: b...but, you are the one who ask me to go to sleep...
gal: you already said want to sleep already, what else u want me to say?
guy: haiz... if you wanna chat, just say so... what for tell me to go
sleep, and feeling unhappy in the end?
gal: since when i'm unhappy?
guy: isn't this unhappy? ok ok, i won't sleep the next time, will that
do?
gal: what's the point? i want you to chat with me willingly, and not
because afraid that i will be unhappy...
in the end, guy spend another ?comforting gal, actual sleep time is
11.40pm, plus the earlier argument, he did not have a good sleep. what
worse is the gal may argue with the same thing again the next day.
good example
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gal (sounding out): you feeling sleepy?
guy (tired vocal, but sound interested) : abit, tired from work. but you
have not finished talking, carry on, i will be listening.
gal (felt consoled): orh, but since you are tired, go and sleep then
(still sounding out)
never fall into the trap and hang up the phone
guy: there's no afternoon break today, indeed more tiring. how abt i
give u a call tomorrow morning. let's chat awhile more ok? (tells the
reason, and offer make up measure)
gal: oh ok. go and sleep now, you must be tired.
gal is willing to let guy go sleep, but guy must do a bit more than this
guy: so what time you are going to sleep?
gal: not sure, probably a bit later.
guy: ok, but not too late, not good for health. i will be heart pain one
hor...
gal (feeling loved): ok lah...
guy: i love you the most! (even if eyes are shutting also must remember
to say this impt words, else all effort wasted)
gal: i loved you too, have a good rest! (happy till can float liao)
guy: ehmm...
gal hang up the phone
in the end, 11.10pm. guy sleep peacefully, and probably a morning call
from gal the next day...
conclusion 1:
female wants feeling and care. most of the time, female's logic cannot
be figure out with a reasoning mind.
conclusion 2:
say a few more touching words, concerning lines, will save you more than
½hr of precious time
conclusion 3:
when encounter the above situation, must always let the gal hang up the
phone first. else it will be disastrous...
conclusion 4:
if your gf isn't like the one in the example, then congrats to u!
treasure her!
but if otherwise, dun accuse her of being unreasonable. what she wants
is very simple..
Draw....
Thursday, April 21, 2005
HoHoHo... I won money. Dinner on me tonight for my dear, darling and extra. Guess what, this is the third time I bet on soccer and the first time i won so much. $10 for $32.20. But guess what, My colleagues/friends lost money. Haha.. Luckily only ten dollars. Thank u for donating the ten dollar to me. Haha.. :P So happy today. Yea.. thats all for the day. Update again tomorrow.
Sianz.. still none of the NSF come yet. Going to 9am still haben come. BEST Sial... Only me alone. Sianz.. Hungry sial..
(Edited)
Kaoz.. juz now recieved an email from my supervisor. Haiz.. sianz ah..
The email msg is as follows: They have been asking me if your office reporting time is 8am - 5.30pm, as all of you have been leaving at 5.30pm. Pls be careful.
Haiz... sianz ah.. next time cannot wan qu zhao hui liao lah... :( sianz.
MC day.. Guys Beware..
Wednesday, April 20, 2005
Hmm.. yesterdae took MC and stayed at home and slack. Haha.. ACtually i wasn't sick. I was juz feeling guilty conscience. Haiz.. all thanks to the damn virus. Argh... Suxs. Life Suxs. Watever it is i dun care anymore.Wats done cannot be undone.
Yesterdae had a great chat with my dear on msn. Hehe.. she is so cute. Chatted on many things. Lazy to type today. Hinted to her alot of times. Wahaha... Then guess what, I frget what i asked her but then she juz told me that she is not ready for a r/s. Sounds familiar ? Haha.. Really dun wish to see the same things happening to me again. If not i afraid i might really go for guys. Wahahahahaha.... So guys out there beware of me next time. :P
NTUC joke.
Monday, April 18, 2005
Good morning everyone... Yesterdae morning went running at bishan park. Hmm... walked to bishan park and then started running when we reached there. Went there with yuan pin. Hehe.. I was beginnig to realise that i am getting weak. Damn it. I must exercise more liao lah.. Omg. hehe... My motivation to exercise is becos of my ORD IPPT($150) and also someone said i was too skinny so i want to built up my body. After running, I did some stations exercise. Hmm.. this is the part which I am getting weak. I did some dips, sit up, crunches and push up. After doing only a few repetition, i buay tahan oreadi. Die liao lah... Gettin weak. Must train up.. GAMBATE.... For my future, for my health and for my money. Haha... After the morning, exercise, we went for breakfast.
Afternoon, went shopping with yuan pin. He went to bloomington to buy card for his rollercoaster. After that, I went to spotlight to look for birthday card ideal. Yeah... Cool. Then after that we went to bishan. Boring manz.. the place is so super crowded. Then we went back home shortly. After i reached home, i was watching the news and then heard a news saying that a leopard ran away. I was like oh,, so lucky we were there on sat, Haha.. then i msged them about the shocking news. Haha.. Then suddenly, suping said that she is at NTUC shopping for somethings and she couldn't find it. Haha... So cute ritez. Finding her more n more cute. haha.. Then she was there for 30mins looking a those steamnboat gas stove and dumpling skin.(Wanton Skin) Then i called her and told her where the location of the tings would be as i am quite familiar with the place. Tnen after that, i told her i would come down and help you. When i was ready to go down, she called me back and told me that dunnid liao le. She found the gas stove liao but still cannot find the dumpling skin. But i still went down hoping to see her there and help her. But she was gone when i arive. I also couldn't find the skin for the dumpling. Haha.. Think its outta stock. I told her i couldn't find the skin too.. Haha. Then after that went back home.
I dun know why i was so enthu to go down even she said dunnid le. Cos if it was someone else, when they said dunnid le i believe i wun go down de. I believe the car had crashed very deeply and the passenger is stucked in the seat. Hope the passenger is only suffering from any injuries. Car crash report would out shortly.
We are going to the Zoo zoo Zoo.. How about you..
Sunday, April 17, 2005
Haha.. went to the zoo yesterdae with my dear and friends. haha.. Hmm i was so sorry. Realli sorry for being late. Sorry my dear and friends. haha.. Hmm... i could not wake up in the morning and in the end i was late for an hour. Realli sorry for being late. Girls sorry once again. ok.
Actual plan was actully to go pulau ubin to hike de. Then hor... i think beos of i am late and they saw bus 138 and then while waiting for me to arrive they changed their decision. Hehe.. When i heard they wanna go zoo, i was a little HuH!!! but since i was late, i obey instructions given by them. Hehe.. :) anyway we took the bus down to the Zoo. Thinking of the song we are going to the Zoo Zoo ZOo How about you you you, u can come too too too. Haha.. classic sial.. Still remember its was cai hong xia ri ying. The MTV was by loanne our sec sch friend. also guo jing li the RI npcc guy. Yeah... We arrived at the zoo at 1045. We begin our trip in the zoo. Oh.. took many photos. Hope i can get the photos soon. hehe. can't wait to see the photos i took with my dear n friends. haha.. :) wasted my darling never go. Hmm.. walk walk walk. We stopped and rested a few times. We also watched the show performance. The Orang Utan so funny. So cute... but i think all of us are tired already so i think they didn't realli laugh much. After the show, we quickly finish off with the rest of the trail. Soon we finished everything and exit. Its was aroun 1430hrs. Can we spend about three hours in there. I think age is catching up with us. Haha.. after the three hours of walk, all of us seem half dead. All very quiet when in the bus journey home. Oh.. realli enjoyed the day. heehee first time go zoo with friends. But sorry dear n friends ah.. Sorry Sorry Sorry... :)
PS: Dear is juz play play de. Hehe... not real dear. But hope it can be real dear. HeeHee.. :) :D :O :P
Lucky or Unlucky ?
Thursday, April 14, 2005
Hmm... Let me say about yesterdae first. Yesterdae was yang suan birthday. I went there after work. I went over to TRACOM to meet my 'dear' theresa to go together. Haha.. She was there for the NPDP training. I was waiting for her at the canteen and oh.. the whole damn place is crowded. Its becos its the 'b' div ruby competition. Alot of ACS, RI, SA students. All the ang moh pai schools. Haha.. I waited there for about 30mins. Wah kaoz.. wait till very long.. neck gonna drop off manz.. When she came out, i went with her to collect her bag and went off after that.. Then the cadets very naughty sial.. all disturbing her saying... "Mdm, your BF ah ???" Kids nowadays realli no manners. Last time when we were cadets, we dun even dare to talk to our CI like that. Haiz... terrible.. Then after that, we took a cab to pasir ris and met up with suping. We reached there juz in time. Haha.. Then we went to look for food for her. She is a vegtarian mah... then were afraid that she got no food at the BBQ mah.. hehe.. therefore we went to the food court. Oh.. there was no vegtarian food in both food court. So in the end, she had to eat desert.
Reach there le then chit chat with bdae girl then went home very fast.
On the way home, in the cab, the stupid taxi driver lao teeko pek. Then the taxi driver keep on saying those yellow jokes... Also he kept telling us not to take down his number plate cos he was afriad that we will lodge a complain against him. I purposely took down his number in my HP. Guess what its a blessing in disguise that i took down his number. When i alighted the taxi, i walked suping darling home. Then after that i walk back from her home. When i reached the doorstep, i found out that i lost my house keys. Haiz.. damn it. The first thing i remember is the taxi. I immediately called comfort taxi and check with the company. I provided the car plate number. I was so afraid that my house is lost. Haiz... Sianz..
This morning i recieved a call from comfort and they told me that my keys are with them. I was relieved then. haha.. Its realli a blessing in disguise. Yeah...Haha..
Thinking nonsense..
Tuesday, April 12, 2005
Thinking of Nonsense again. Haha.. I am crazy. Going crazy. So silly. Sweep Sweep... Sweep away all the nonsense from my brain. SHoo.. Hmm. yesterday went to watch pacifier at nitez. Hmm... its a super funny show sial. Worth watching. Nothing to blog about.
I wanna ask your opinion. Would you people change yourself to suit someone ? Example: Changing to be a vegetarian or muslim for the someone ? Hmm.. wat do you think ? think of the long run... would be able to take it ? Let me know after you read it. K.. thks. :) Boring... going to play game liao. Ciaoz..
Car Crashes
Friday, April 08, 2005
Hmmm... a quick one today. Cos i think quite busy later on. Hmm... something to ponder about. Ytd met up with my sec friends. Long time no see them and recently keep meeting up with them until car crash. Dunno whether there will be any injuries anot? Argh... this computer is giving a buzzing sound. very irritating. Haiz.. stupid com. Update later after helpdesk settle this problem. Bye..
edited/0941hrs
Back.. This computer is crazy. Now no sound liao. Stupid computer. Haz... IBM SUXS.
Where did i stop. Hmm... Oh.. car crash. Haha... dunno why car crash so easily nowadays. Maybe car getting old already bah... Hopefully there is not much injuries caused by the crash. Sometimes car crash is uncontrollable. When a car drive too fast and cannot brake in time, then it will crash. Haiz.. and normally in a car crash the car will be damaged. either in the front bumper or back bumper. But if it was to be bang by another car from the side, the injuries will be more severe.
So hopefully there is no cars cutting lane without any signals.. Understand what i am trying to convey. haha..
Bad Omen...
Tuesday, April 05, 2005
Oh.. what a bad start of the day. But not me and its the office environment. The story goes like this. Two good friends, both execs were not very happy with each other when they first stepped into the office. Its a little nu hai zi qi. Both of them climbed up the stairs together to the office which was their normal routine. 14 storey they climb up. PEI FU sial... ahaha.. Then on the way up, one of them shan't mention the name, was climbing slowly taking her own time. Then i think she is carry many things so the other offered help to help her. She say dunnid then they started to have disagreement between each other. Haiz... so nu hai zi qi ritez. When they both reach up, the weather in the office is filled with heavy clouds with thunder and lighting. Any time it would start to rain. Haha... Right now they both not toking to each other.. Hope they reconcil after lunch with the help of a mediator. If not the heavy clouds and thunder will stay there for the rest of the day. Without the laughter of them two, I can hear my keyboard typing very loud. Haha... so u can imagine the weather now in my office. Hope the weather will change after lunch. Hope for the Best.
Then lets tok abt yesterdae. Haha.. met up with lijuan in the evening for dinner. Hmm.. she never attack me or anything yet lehz.. she juz telling me her job scope pr those tings only lor. Anyway she is a financial planner from a brokerage firm. Not insurance agent. Haha... she is those whom help people to plan their finances and also encourage people to invest their money. Right now i have no money, so maybe she will attack me when later after i ORD and start to work bah. Haha.. :P Alright i juz checked my email and fopund work to do. Okie.. sayonara. Bye...
Brand New Week
Monday, April 04, 2005
Hmm.. a new week had begin again. Been looking forward to this week. Hmm.. dunno why lehz. I think becos i am going to meet many people this week. This whole i week i am going to have a big hole in my pocket. Cos i need to meet friend to buy present for this for that. Haiz.. bdae bdae bdae. So many people bdae this month. Sian ritez...
Hmm this morning i get to see the perm sec during Buzz@Phoenix. He is quite an interesting old man. Hmm... very friendly man. Btw Buzz@Phoenix is an event for the new comers(New Birdies) to interact with the senior management. Yongzhi and I will be organzing the event after jian xiong's ORD. And this will be the big show for us.
Last weekend went to watch Miss Congenality with Suping, Mulyati n her friends. Hmm.. not bad lah that show. The last part of the show little propaganda. Haha.. Go and watch and you will know what i meant. Hmm.. after the show, went to east coast for kailing's bdae. And suping went for her primary school friend bdae. Too bad hers is at pasir ris and my is at east coast. Haiz... Then daiming came to fetch me at tiong bahru plaza. haha... big shot sial.. Haha... that stupid DM anyhow think onli. Got girl means GF. Nonsense. Rubbish. Wateva he say lah... Anyway even if it is, I am not his type of guy lah. Oh.. she coconut one.. send me msg call me small boy. Wanna scold her on thursday when i see her for dinner.
April Fool...
Friday, April 01, 2005
Good Morning.. Nothing to do in the morning. Hmm.. so boring therefore come blog and write some rubbish. haha.... So sianz. Oh... yesterdae i got a new task into my job scope. Damn it. I need to take down reference for file to DD/PS & DD/HRS . Wat to do.. i am juz a NSF. No choice lor. Haiz.. Ren Ming Ba.. Stop sighing...
Hmm.. next week got alot of appointment. So who wanna date me hurry up book an appointment before its all taken up. Haha.. btw who wanna watch the twins kungfu show, incongenelity 2, the eye10 and the pacifier. Better watch it fast, Oh btw if you guys did not know, movie price will hike by $1 which means $7.50 during weekdays and $9.50... Damn expensive ritez.. Next time i think KTV business will prosper cos i think the entertainment will not be movies anymore. Wat other entertainment can be done in Singapore, this small and expensive city.
